The fix for issue 18808 left us checking two things to be sure a Thread
was done:  an Event (._stopped) and a mutex (._tstate_lock).  Clumsy &
brittle.  This patch removes the Event, leaving just a happy lock :-)

The bulk of the patch removes two excruciating tests, which were
verifying sanity of the internals of the ._stopped Event after a fork.
Thanks to Antoine Pitrou for verifying that's the only real value
these tests had.

One consequence of moving from an Event to a mutex:  waiters (threads
calling Thread.join()) used to block each on their own unique mutex
(internal to the ._stopped event), but now all contend on the same
mutex (._tstate_lock).  These approaches have different performance
characteristics on different platforms.  I don't think it matters in
this context.